The games we play when searching for the right person can be time consuming and complicated. Meeting in singles parties and bars, our judgment impaired by alcohol, we pursue blindly. Some of us jump head first into a relationship without really getting to know the other person. Still others don’t even try, choosing to stand on the sidelines watching and pining. It seems like a big lottery. Many complain of the lack of eligible partners in this fast-paced world of ours. Is there really a lack or are we just not looking the right way?
The important questions to ask yourself are What makes up a healthy relationship? What do you want in a partner? Honesty, respect, integrity, and compassion come to mind. However, people can put on a mask to the outside world and hide their true nature so well. Many of us can’t detect the flaws and issues people carry, but one particular method is an infallible test that reveals the truth – handwriting analysis.
A number of years ago, after one relationship ended in disaster, I decided I was not going to begin another until I could determine if it was likely to succeed. I kept meeting men who were abusive and incompatible. “Where was I going wrong?” I asked myself. They presented themselves at first so generous and kind, showering me with gifts and compliant behavior. So, when I was introduced to handwriting analysis I was inspired to undertake an experiment. I went to several singles dances and when a man was very interested in going out with me, I asked for a sample of his handwriting. At first, some would become a bit defensive, however, I was able to persuade them to write. I explained my interest in handwriting analysis and that I needed samples to practice. Little did they suspect I was evaluating them based on their handwriting.
Each one showed particular traits that were not very compatible for me, but I decided to go for a few dates and see if the behavior would be revealed as the handwriting indicated. True to form, the men revealed their true character.
One man rambled on in baby talk, so self-absorbed in his silliness and talked about himself nonstop. This was shown by the shallow t crossings, erratic spacing and poor quality writing.
Another man though cultured and a charming sense of humor, had the stroke of physical frustration that revealed itself as pushing for intimacy. This is seen by incomplete lower zone loops that resemble more of a stick.
Yet another man show stubbornness which was seen by the wide t braces. Though nobody is perfect, the fewer of these negative traits present in a person, the more conducive to a sincere and loving relationship. The key is adding up the traits to get a picture of the person’s character, attitude and behavior. Traits by themselves do not constitute a disastrous union. You need at least five negative traits to start paying attention and proceed with caution. |
Here is a sampling of the traits to watch out for:
Some authors stick to a short list of traits to watch out, but not all traits can be found in the individual. People are diverse and have many different personalities.
To get a broad view of what to look for in handwriting, I highly recommend reading A Question of Honesty by Iris Holmes Hatfield. With numerous examples, she explains specific traits that raise the red flag. The more I read about the traits that are unhealthy for a romantic relationship, the more I realize people could benefit from the information I gathered. Too often we take people at face value literally, so naïve to believe people and what they say, that their masks fool us. How easy it would be for someone with a hidden yet dark agenda such as a predator to slip undetected into a singles group and charm unsuspecting victims. I believe not only prospective partners but also dating services would have a much better rate of success if they employed a handwriting analyst to determine compatibility and safety rather then simply relying on computerized questionnaire printouts or a photograph. With time being such an issue in our lives, shortening the search for that special someone would give us freedom to explore other mutual interests.
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